Rebuilding a Frame

When those events, anniversaries or milestone roll around, and you are already dreading their arrival, instead ask yourself, “What can I do to reframe it?”

We reframe artwork and perspective, and even houses need reframing as they age, so why not experiences?

A woman who had dinner with her husband at the same restaurant nearly every Friday night dreaded ever going back to that restaurant, so instead her friends surrounded her with love and they all went there on a Friday night. The charge that event once held is not longer and she can go by herself, with a friend and even order carry out. After all, the food is still good!

A 20th anniversary was approaching and the woman knew that she would feel really sad that day, as she was still grieving what could have, in her mind should have, been a milestone to be celebrated. 20 years prior her engagement had included a presentation of 100 tulips. In a moment of desperation, or was it really genius, she bought 100 tulips and packaged them into small bouquets to be handed to friends, coworkers and even strangers on that day. That was the moment that the day that had represented her wedding anniversary became her Tulip Day, a new tradition that would take place annually. She had built a new frame for it; she had reframed it.

Those are two amazing examples of creating a new frame for an event that had become negatively emotionally charged and now is imprinted with a new memory and a new frame of perspective.