Boundaries and Consequences

Boundaries and consequences are a critical part of the healing process in order to have healthy relationships of all types in the future.

I was 34 years old the first time I set anything even resembling a boundary with a consequence. Multiple boundaries were violated and the collective consequence was enforced with next to no effort on my part. I was 62 when I enforced my most serious consequence for a violation of a critical boundary, the kind that could have cost me my entire family. It has been a lifelong process for me to identify, create and execute boundaries. It is not easy but well worth the work.

I have been focusing on boundaries and consequences … every day for over 4 years now. There are many layers to the topic and a lot of self-reflection necessary to set and hold boundaries and enforce consequences.

Therefore, I want to share the information that has been useful to me, based on the work of multiple therapists and specialists in the field, and created a very brief and conceptual explanation in regard to setting boundaries and executing consequences.

This document is purely to get you thinking about the topic. I am not a therapist and as you move forward with the essential process, I strongly recommend that you work with a therapist skilled at setting core-value based healthy boundaries and defining appropriate consequences, as well as enforcing those boundaries and consequences.

In addition to the 5 group sessions in the “Single Minded” series, I offer group roundtable discussions on a variety of topics including identifying core values and setting boundaries and executing consequences. Check Services.

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